I Don't Get Her

My stepdaughter is supposed to wear a mouth guard due to jaw pain/popping. We had to pay more out-of-pocket because insurance didn't cover much of it. When she was here for Spring Break, we asked her about it because she wasn't wearing it. She said that once the pain stopped, she stopped wearing the mouth guard and then when she needed it again (due to pain), she said it didn't fit anymore.

Then we get an email from the ex recently that my stepdaughter is being referred by the dentist to an oral surgeon. We questioned if surgery was the next logical choice given that my stepdaughter hadn't even been wearing her mouth guard. According to the ex, she does wear it...you know, the usual high and mighty tone ex's can take when they write. Yeah, ok, when? She certainly didn't bring it here when she stayed for a week and my stepdaughter said it didn't fit anymore. Who is lying?

Anyway, the ex wanted to know if this oral surgeon is in-network for our insurance (which is secondary to the ex's insurance). I contacted them to find out and he is. I let the ex know. I realized she hadn't told us if he was in-network to hers. Given she's primary insurance holder, you'd think she would have checked before contacting us about it right? No. Come to find out, as of right now, he's not. They're sending her the codes they'd bill under so she can contact her insurance again but she said they might have to get a referral to somebody else.

What a dimwit! Why wouldn't she have checked that first before contacting us to find out if ours was if she was going to get a different referral anyway if her primary insurance wouldn't cover it? I swear that she must type BS just to get some type of contact now and then. Kind of like a "yoo hoo, remember me?" email!?!

Another thing that hasn't even been mentioned is that my stepdaughter plays the clarinet (band, marching band, jazz band). That kind of tension on the jaw while you play (I played clarinet), when you have TMJ, would continue to cause strain. I have TMJ (thanks to all the BS from the ex over the years) so I know. Has anybody considered that losing the clarinet might be a better choice to try first rather than cutting open a teenager's jaw? I wonder if the dentist even knows she plays.