Paternity
>> Tuesday, April 29, 2008
Do you question whether the child you are supporting is yours?
Has the mother of this child ever said or done anything to put doubts in your head? For example, have you ever heard any of these phrases:
- "I'll tell everybody he isn't yours."
- "You don't have to acknowledge paternity."
- "I slept with XYZ."
Did it take months for the mother of your child to tell you she was pregnant even though you were in a relationship with her?
Does/did the mother of your child not want you to have anything to do with this child without reason?
Does your child not look or act anything like you? Does the child look like her ex, her boss, etc.?
There are paternity tests that can establish whether you actually fathered the child you are raising/supporting. There are new procedures that enable you to establish paternity without blood tests now by using hair samples also. There are men who are suing women for fraud as a result of these lies about paternity!
There is a ton of information available on the web concerning paternity testing. You can also contact local hospitals and your county's family services division for more information in your area. Check your state's laws concerning paternity tests.
There is a test that uses hair to establish paternity that seems easier than blood tests though like I said, check with your state's requirements to ensure it is valid in a court of law. There are even paternity tests that you can buy from Rite-Aid now!!
6 comments:
I don't think women lie about paternity half as often as men suspect they do. Most of the time it's a deadbeat father looking for a way out of supporting a child that more often than not probably turns out to be his anyway. Every once in a while it will turn out the child is not his and the man will get off the hook but I suspect it is not nearly as often as women are accused. It's a good thing men cannot have children or we would never know who our parents are.
Actually, I know of a few women who have kept information like that themselves and I'm your average soccer mom. I wrote another article about this earlier after seeing it on tv:
http://www.stepfamilysanctuary.com/2008/03/whos-your-daddy.html
It is not "getting off the hook" as much as it is getting justice. My husband has been paying for 12 years for a child that is not his. It is considered fraud and how can anyone say it is not. If the child is not his then she obviously knew she was sleeping with someone else didn't she? Therefor it would be fraud. You may be greatly surprised just how many women have done this, are doing this, and are continuing to do this. It is apalling to me that anyone can be that cruel and manipulative to get money from one man because they know the real father won't or can't give it.
I agree. I think that when women do this, they should face fraud charges and have to repay the man she frauded. The monetary issues aside, a child has a right to know who their father is.
It is not getting off the hook as put by first poster. It is an injustice nto only to the child but also to the "father". My husband just got relieved off his child support obligations when a judge agreed that the mother had commited fraud. My husband is not a dead beat dad and never was. He paid religiously and even gave her money on the side to help with costs. Paternity fraud is far more common than you would think. It is just that no man wants to accuse the woman he was married to of being unfaithful.
I'm glad to hear of a judge who agreed that this was fraud. I wonder if this was prosecuted better (with bigger consequences) if we would see less lying over paternity when it comes time to file for and collect the child support.
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