Did the ex and step duties affect your wedding plans?

We didn't have a big wedding. We went to the judge to be married. We didn't have a big reception. We had a few people over to my sister's after the judge married us for cake.

Why? Because we were in the middle of a court fight with my husband's ex so he could see his daughter regularly (as opposed to only when the ex could get hubby to jump through her hoops and the prize was a few hours with their daughter) and spend time with his son at all (if he didn't love her - the ex - he couldn't see his son...didn't you know that was how it worked?). We didn't have the funds for a big shindig nor did we have the time to plan it. It didn't matter in terms of our marriage - we've been married almost 14 years and are still going strong.

Yes, I would have liked the dress and the party afterward to dance all night long. Who wouldn't like a professional make up artist doing your make-up like at Newport Rhode Island wedding make-up for a little pampering? I know I would.

The statistics for divorce were against us. With 60% of second marriages failing, the odds were stacked against us. With four children and almost 14 years of marriage, I'd say we're doing OK, despite those statistics!