Xmas Gift Lists from Stepkids Coming In & Rudely At That
>> Sunday, November 1, 2009
This morning, my sd sent an email to both our email addresses. This is what it said:
"when do you guys want christmas lists?"
Not "hi, how ya doing, how's my brother and sisters since we haven't bothered to talk to them since July, what's new, when do you want our christmas lists?" but JUST about the gifts. A "hi" would've been nice! Don't hear from her in forever and then when her email comes in, it's about what we should buy her.
I'll bet it's not a surprise to a lot of other stepfamilies with a difficult ex and teenaged stepchildren.
2 comments:
I haven't had the pleasure of an email like that....but then, my teenage stepdaughter isn't allowed to send emails to her father without her mother reading them, so we don't email her. BUT, we do get those thoughtful phone calls with one week's notice that she has finally picked some visitation days and are we ready to buy the airline tickets like NOW? We are the bank and the travel agents. We really hate it, but what can you do when the courts and lawyers consistently produce this kind of outcome for the fathers who pay and pay and pay?
The ex used to read all my stepdaughter's emails too and delete what she wanted before my sd saw them. She used to respond pretending to be sd too. She couldn't allow the kids to have a relationship with their dad or siblings w/o her being in the middle of it all.
The courts are certainly operating in a way that is detrimental to a father's rights and it impacts the kids negatively. It's not right. All we feel like is an ATM too. We're only good for the weekly child support check and for what to buy them on their birthdays and for xmas. Otherwise, they act like they have very little use for us. The ex taught them well.
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