No Party Favors for 17th Birthday

>> Wednesday, November 25, 2009

My stepdaughter's 17th birthday is next month. I doubt we'll even be seeing her for her birthday. We haven't spent her birthday with her in 3 - 4 years now I think. Between her mother and her teenage life, she doesn't want a whole lot to do with dad or younger siblings anymore. Legally, she's supposed to spend it here every other year but they've learned it's not pleasant for them emotionally to leave their mother. What a sad way to grow up.

She's almost an adult now so at this time, it's pointless. She'll have her friends to hang out with. They days of balloons and party favors is long over for her until she's engaged with everything that goes along with that. Oh well. We still have our four kids who don't need to worry about being caught in the middle.

It's a celebration for us too - it means one more year to go before half the legal obligation with the ex ends. I can't wait!!


Mommy of 3 November 25, 2009 at 6:16 AM  

I 'envy' you in so many ways. Your 'sentence' is drawing near since the kids are getting older AND everyone lives far enough away that they aren't in your life every stinking day. The ex doesn't throw a fit that the kids HAVE to come no matter what. When SS reaches the age that he doesn't want to come over here anymore, our EX will be writing to FOC that we aren't taking him and then we will have a moody teenager who doesn't want to be here. Not that I don't love having SS here now, I just despise the EX and all that she creates in our life.

Syn November 25, 2009 at 8:23 AM  

It's been a long time coming. My stepson was a baby and stepdaughter 2-1/2 when I met them. 14-1/2 years done, 1-1/2 left to go for my sd and 3-1/2 left for my stepson. I can't wait until the legal relationship with the ex ends. I'll be ecstatic!!

We had the opposite problem - the ex wanted the kids all to herself so the kids always felt guilty for leaving her and going to dad's. They were made to feel guilty for loving everybody here. They were made to choose. The ex crying on my front porch, clinging to my stepdaughter because she didn't want to drop her off at dad's house. It's been rough. Moving away saved our own family unit because it took away the ex's daily hostility trip. It took my kids out of her range. Nobody is going to put bullseyes on my kids.

The ex did go to the court though when my husband stopped bringing my ss to our house for awhile at the recommendation of his pediatrician and therapist because he was violent and hurting our kids. She thought it was going to be her way to get dad to give up his rights I think, like she'd wanted all along. Instead of bringing him to our place, my husband drove 2-1/2 hours to get his son, would drive an hour the other way to take him to therapy, spend the afternoon with him, drive him the hour back to his mom's and then drive 2-1/2 hours home again and the ex claimed my husband had abandoned ss because he wouldn't bring him to our house to beat up on his younger siblings. Doing all that driving to take his son to therapy and spend time with him, when it was determined the reason he needed therapy was because of his mother but she wouldn't go, and she was screeching abandonment? She's worthless. I despise that woman.

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