Checking Out Xmas Present for Stepson
>> Tuesday, November 17, 2009
My husband asked me yesterday to look for the best prices for a guitar amp for my stepson for Christmas. He is asking for a Roland MicroCube Guitar Amplifier
He never writes. He never calls. He never texts. We don't exist for him until it's time for presents. When I sent them stuff before, he only thanked his dad. It makes me a bit hesitant to spend a lot of time shopping for him, ya know? I'd rather just leave it up to hubby to find the gift for his son but then I'm the Internet shopping guru so I can find the best prices and promo codes for things. He doesn't know how. It'd save us money if I did it. However, my annoyance factor would have a cost all its own.
3 comments:
Your time and energy definitely have a cost. If your stepson is only thanking your husband, then let him do all the work for the gift.
I'm in a similiar situation. I decided to shop for everyone's Christmas gifts this year. Why? Because my husband and I were having discussion(not a fight) and he was expressing how overwhelmed he is feeling with life right now. It didn't have anything to do with his kids just the bad economy(we are in the construction biz) and just daily life. I volunteered to make sure it was all complete this year. We usually do this together. But the shopping doesn't involve just his kids. So I'm focusing on that fact that I'm supporting him NOT doing it for the step-kids. I was able to take a much-loved job this year. He took over morning routine with our son so that I could leave a bad job for a good one. And he is an incredible Dad. Do I feel twinges of irratation as I'm choosing gifts for very ungrateful adult step-kids and spouses? Yep, but I push that to the back of mind and concentrate as to who I'm really doing this for. And that I have NO expectations of getting a sincere response for the time and money spent. That also helps with me just moving past it and focusing on our son, us, and the extended family and friends.
Anywhoo, that is how I'm handling the situation this year.
Merry Christmas!
That's how had to think of it too because this gift ended up being a HUGE hassle because of the shipper mainly - I'm doing it for my husband. I didn't even think about not getting a thank you personally from my stepson until I read this again (and I didn't get one personally). I'm not even sure if my husband received a thank you from his son. That's how far it was off my radar this xmas - not at the top of my list to worry about when xmas was over. I let it go. I did what I did to lighten my husband's load and that was it. My whole focus this year was on spending time with hubby while he had a few days off of work and enjoying my kids joy over what Santa brought for them.
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