A little closer to the end...
>> Wednesday, January 20, 2010
We are only a year and four months away from my stepdaughter graduating. That'll end the legal relationship we have for her with the ex. That leaves us right now at 3 years, 4 months (my stepson) until it is ALL over. Do the happy dance!
I love seeing the time disappear. I wish it'd go faster but whatcha gonna do? We made it through 14 years...a few more should be no problem.
7 comments:
I am so happy for you and jealous at the same time! We have almost 11 years to go... we're getting there! Almost time to celebrate for you!!
When we started, it seemed like forever before we'd have the ex out of our hair. Now it's only a few years away:) Time didn't seem to fly as we were going thru it but now that it is over, it's amazing how fast the kids grow up.
That sounds amazing!! We have 15 more years to go and counting, as the BF often tells me we are going to throw one hell of a party once I stop having to pay child support!!! CONGRATS
While the legal relationship will end at that time, remember that your step-children will still be in both their parents' lives. There will be major functions and milestones that will likely require you to interact with their mother.
Well, of course, that's to be expected. I don't have any problem seeing her at events and such. Getting rid of that legal tie...getting rid of her ability to stake a claim on the kids and delegate my husband to a totally unimportant role in the children's lives is what I'm looking forward to ending. When the kids will be an adult and able to make their own decisions on when to call dad, etc...that's what I'm looking forward to. When her crying everytime they tried to leave her to go to dad's house will not have the affect it does on an adultl child the way it would on smaller children any longer.
It's not really about hating the ex. It's about the kids having the maturity and decision-making ability as an adult to have a relationship wtih dad that their mother can't manipulate to keep them home with her.
after having a real rough year with step sons (13&17).I have planned a vacation for my huband and I,and my son and daughter.Is this wrong?with how much greif,they have caused,why do i feel guilty?
My husband and I have taken just our kids on vacation several times. Our first real vacation as a family was a disaster with the ex's interference (resulting in crying kids) and misbehavior from one of the stepkids and I wasn't spending a couple thousand dollars on a vacation ever again to have it ruined. I spent most that vacation angry and struggling with a stepchild. Not my idea of a vacation. The next couple big vacations were when the ex had the children for her parenting time. We've taken the stepkids since then on mini-vacations for long weekends but we don't schedule our vacations for only when they will be here for hubby's parenting time and the big vacation we do every few years, it's just us. We plan our vacation around our children's school schedule (which differs from the stepkids' schedule) and work schedules, not the parenting time schedule. Being teenagers, they prefer it that way.
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