Sold Guitar; Buying Winter Coats

>> Thursday, October 14, 2010

I asked my husband this morning if he thought that by making this trip next week, that has caused a lot of tension in our marriage at the moment, if he thought it meant that his kids wouldn't ignore him on Father's Day next year (like they did this year).  He's missing my point.

I'm supposed to create a web site for him (he is making handmade guitar picks and wants to sell them) but I've not been in the mood to do much of anything for him lately (his laundry pile plopped unfolded on his side of the bed was his first good indication of that).  He should look up managed web hosting and see if somebody else can help him.

Oh well.  I just sold one of my guitars today (the one that is worth the most but we lost a couple hundred by selling it for what we sold it for).  I'll be able to buy the kids winter coats with the money and some jeans for my son.  Thinking that my husband might actually realize he is wasting his time and money (that is needed elsewhere) on this trip next week for an almost adult "child" who really doesn't care about him at all just isn't happening. 


Ally October 14, 2010 at 4:22 PM  

Maybe you would like to read "Emotinal Blackmail" by Susan Forward. Might help navigate this. This is making me sick to my stomach, it's so crazy. I can't believe your husband is (A) Falling for this obvious ploy and (B) not standing by you or the rest of his family at all. i'm so sorry.

Stick October 15, 2010 at 2:34 PM  

I can feel the emotion from your post and I feel bad for your entire family. I can understand both sides of this dilema. I understand your husband wanting to drive as long as necessary to go see his daughter for even the slightest moment. As a parent we have to be responsible and show our children that we love them, that we will do anything for them. Even if, they don't show it back. One day she will remember what he did for her. It sounds like she has a lot of negative influences from her mother. Shame on her mother. But two wrongs don't make a right.

On the other hand, I can totally understand your frustration. An ungrateful almost adult child who needs some tough love. She hurts her sister's feelings (who does nothing but show her love). Yep, I can see why you would be angry and feel like he's neglecting you and the children who live in your home.

I don't think there is a right or wrong in your situation. I hope that you both will have the strength (for your family's sake) to understand how the other is feeling and just agree to disagree. This is not a battle that can be won. I will be thinking of you and I wish you and your family the best!

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