Wow, no grad ticket AND change our vacation plans?

>> Tuesday, April 2, 2013

We made vacation arrangements to see my stepson graduate this spring. We were going to their state for a few days for his graduation and visit my family and then after the graduation ceremony, we are to drive north to visit my husband's parents (we haven't been there in three years). My SS finds out we are heading north to his paternal grandparents and asks to go with us.  I was a little surprised (figured he'd have grad parties to attend) but OK, no problem, sure.

A couple days ago, SS informs his dad that he has plans with his friends and wants us to wait a few days to head north because he wants to hang with his friends. Nobody required him to go with us; he asked to go. We are driving from OUR state to theirs, taking work vacation time, dog sitters, etc., but we should change our entire vacation now - extend it - to accommodate his hanging with friends (when he hasn't seen his dad in two years because those friends are more important than coming to dad's house)?

Yesterday, I posted about how dad wasn't even getting a ticket to see his son graduate from high school this year from the ex. We were informed of this on Easter Sunday, obviously after we made vacation arrangements with work, dog care, etc. So, now they won't give us even one ticket for dad to see his son graduate and they still have the nerve to ask us to rearrange our vacation, which we planned around that damn graduation, to suit him?


Oh.My.Gawd. The world does not revolve around one kid - whether their parents are together or not. HE asked US to go; not the other way around. Adults in the real world have responsibilities - jobs, bosses who expect them back after vacation is up, etc.  Our own kids are putting their teen lives on hold for this family vacation.  SS asked US to go, not the other way around.  I understand completely wanting to go to grad parties and stuff, which was why I was surprised he asked us to begin with.  However, don't ask to go and then turn around and ask us to change all our plans to suit him!

Of course, my husband is now trying to figure out how to accommodate his son without ticking the rest of us off.  Yeah, good luck with that.

Instead of calling his son on the fact that they aren't even giving him a ticket to see him graduate and yet he is still asking him to rearrange our vacation for his plans, DH is trying to figure out how to make it work.  It won't. I don't know how long it will take DH to figure that one out though. Probably after he ticks me off beyond reasoning.


Ally April 2, 2013 at 11:05 AM  

It never ceases to amaze me the nerve of your stepkids. They clearly do not care one bit for their family.

That being said, somebody's husband needs a smack. You two have been together for so long and he still hasn't figured out that you both have 50% equal right to vote on and veto plans that concern the other -- so worst case he should have run all this by you to which (I assume) you'd say "Uh, that's not gonna work" and best case scenario would be 0.1 seconds after the request he'd scream, "Are you effing kidding me?!"

So is he planning to drive there for SS's graduation but NOT go? And how does it not work that the school doesn't split it in half for 2 divorced parents? Ridiculous.

These kids are such lost causes...

Syn April 2, 2013 at 11:27 AM  

LOL, oh he knows. He is just trying to see how far I will bend so he doesn't have to tell his son to go with the plans we made or don't go. I stopped bending over for his kids years ago.

We made these plans. My family is expecting us on certain days. His parents are expecting us on certain days. His boss is expecting him back from work on a certain day and our dog sitter for our dogs is expecting us back on a certain day. I am not changing everything else around to suit one kid who couldn't give him the time of day for the last several years...or even one graduation ticket.

Worst comes to worst, I'll put our kids in my car and drive to the mountains where we have two free nights vacation time coming, which we were giving up to attend this graduation this year.

The school doesn't split them for divorces. They give them to the student who hands them over to his mother who controls who goes.

Anonymous April 2, 2013 at 8:41 PM  

Sounds like DH needs to stand up to ex wife, and tell his son plans are locked.

Syn April 4, 2013 at 2:59 PM  

I think DH needs a smack.

Anonymous April 5, 2013 at 10:08 PM  

Yeah he needs a smack too lol...

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