Finally stepson will have his gift (I think).

>> Wednesday, December 16, 2009

What a hassle it's been getting my stepson his gift. I ordered it online and it was damaged when we received it. It took a few weeks between then and us receiving its replacement from the company. That came the day before yesterday - AND THEY SENT THE WRONG ITEM. Trying to get a replacement between now and Christmas and with mail time to return the item, then the mail time from the store to us to send another one and then us to my stepson would make it late. So, I had to order (and pay for) a new one and have it shipped directly to the ex's house. Good thing I had room on a credit card or else I would've had to do a check by phone. We wanted to wrap it and ship it ourselves but it would have been late unless we paid major bucks to send it by air each way (which I'm not doing after all this hassle - a guitar amp is heavy!). I've now paid for TWO of these things when we only needed one. We're going to use the second one (the wrong one) for our daughter's guitar. It definitely wouldn't have been our first choice (or any choice) for an amp for her but I'm tired of dealing with this store already!

...and I didn't even want to be the one ordering the gift for my stepson to begin with but I did it for my husband. I need to remember this for next year.


Anonymous December 17, 2009 at 5:30 PM  

Why on earth are you still doing this to yourself? It only took me a few years to learn it was not healthy to set myself up that way. My husband does all of the gift shopping for my 2 stepkids now...I might talk a little with him, remind him, give him some ideas, or talk about price, but he does the ordering/shopping and the cards. He feels good about taking care of the hunting and purchasing, and he also knows I am much happier without the silly stress I used to get when I did this for him. In the end, it doesn't really matter as you know, the gifts will eventually be forgotten, your thoughtfulness will still be ignored, and YOU and their father will still be considered walking wallets for whatever they is the status quo in our situation, and I choose to "not let crazy in the door anymore". It was detrimental to my happiness, my relationship, and my own kids.....why put those things "second" to my stepkids?? For what???

Dorothy Rimson December 19, 2009 at 1:57 AM  

These online gift stores sucks big time..

Syn December 27, 2009 at 4:40 PM  

Because my husband asked me for help. He works hard supporting both families and 3rd shift is beating the heck out of his body physically so when he asks me to do something like this, it's not THAT huge in the grand scheme of things (even if it does seem like it at times). When to disengage is my choice and while I may disengage from the chaos of the ex at times, I don't choose to disengage from helping my husband when he asks because he rarely asks for help.

Despite all the hassle with this gift (and there was more after this post if you can believe it not step-related), it worked out this year.

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