Daughter's Early Acceptance to College

>> Monday, October 13, 2014

My 17-year-old daughter (our oldest) did the "early application" to her first choice college and was accepted. She is THRILLED. She is ready to start her life she says. She and her boyfriend are both going to college for the same thing and both were accepted at the same college. She is ready to plan marriage (after college we hope) and all that goes along with it.  I wouldn't be surprised if she came home one day and said, "Mom, I found a wedding dj."

SCREECH!! (those are brakes)

We are trying not to be total downers but trying to be realistic as well. Yes, some high school relationships work and last. The majority? Not likely.  High school expectations are different than adult expectations. College opens you to a whole new world of experiences and people (and stress). Things can change. If he is "the one" for her then great...he'll still be the one when college is done, right?

Her boyfriend is actually great. If I were to choose a spouse for her (pfft, like parents get to do that), he would be a good choice, He treats her great. There just aren't a lot of boys like this anymore. HOWEVER, the degrees they're both going for is 7-8 years of college away. Let's wait 7-8 years for marriage, OK? Otherwise, I see him finishing with his degree and her giving up hers for married life. I actually don't think being a stay at home mom is a bad thing but she wants this med degree. She WANTS it. She needs to put the brakes on a bit the desire to "play house" and finish college if she wants that degree so badly. It could make the difference between a life of struggle or two parents with med degrees...hmmm...which one is better...let me think.


The Smirking Cat October 20, 2014 at 11:53 AM  

Hi there, I haven't visited your blog in a long time! Remember me?

I agree strongly that your daughter should wait until after she has her degree to even think about getting married. For one, life is going to be much different once she has graduated and starts working. College life is not the same as work life. Plus, there really is no rush. If the relationship lasts through school, then obviously they will still be there for each other when they are finished with school. I changed so much from high school to the end of college!

Syn October 22, 2014 at 12:41 PM  

Of course I remember you! :)

My daughter goes back and forth - yes, we're going to wait and then don't want to wait. I hope when she is 18, one of those "don't want to wait" moments ends up with a rush to get married. It doesn't help that his parents are all about them getting married, where they will get married (they have the PERFECT place picked out already), etc. (THAT drives me NUTS!) They're seniors in high school. All this marriage talk so soon makes me ornery.

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