Unexpected Parenting Time
>> Wednesday, July 27, 2011
My stepkids are supposed to come back at the beginning of August sometime for another long weekend. Ack. Two long weekends are more expensive than one full week because the gas going to their state and back gets doubled (and if it was a full week, hubby would get his child support back that week but that's not happening now). Hubby told me about this unexpected trip, I was surprised and questioned the affordability of it, and that was the end of that conversation. I honestly didn't think it was going to happen because we really can't afford two more round trips to their state and back two weeks before school starts. It's happening. I guess we can make August's car payment in September...:(
I let hubby know we weren't going to be going somewhere every day entertaining them (like their last trip) because we are stretched financially. Disneyland Dad is so NOT happening! We have school fees, school supplies, and clothes for four coming up in 3-1/2 weeks. I can't believe how fast this summer flew!
If this next parenting time goes like last parenting time, I will SCREAM! Literally.
3 comments:
I hope it will be ok, and that you get your desturbed balance from last time back :). It could be a god think for your inner self, beside the money :). Best luck.
Just curious how come they all of a sudden want to spend 'so much' (for the amount that they used to come over) time at Dad's house now? Maybe the fact that Dad is allowing almost anything and everything. Maybe its time to sit down with Dad and let him know how it is affecting everyone.
My H always used to 'feel bad' for the SS when he came to visit therefore doing above and beyond the necessary, and giving into EVERYTHING. Then when our children started being born (we now have 3) things are TOTALLY different with SS... and by that I mean things are EQUAL with EVERY child :) At least you haven't had to deal with this on and every other weekend or summer visit basis, but it still sucks no matter what!
Hubby thinks it has to do with my sd wanting college money. It is out of the ordinary for them to want to be here twice this summer like this. I'm curious to see how hubby acts this weekend. I'm hoping it isn't like last time. We used to have my s-kids every other weekend, month in summer, alternating holidays, etc., and we were united in terms of what the kids could/couldn't do. When they stopped coming regularly these last several years, he lost his place - doesn't seem to know what his place is with them anymore. As far as I am concerned, he is dad and he better act like it. They are here now. I am hoping this turns out to be a better weekend.
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