You might remember back in December-January, there were some problems with my stepson's obscenities on facebook. If you want to read those posts, here are the links: my stepson's song about sex on the bus on his facebook here and here and the message he left on my son's facebook here and his younger sister reprimanding him on facebook here and my stepson's response to it here. Yeah, it's been an issue. He doesn't use the facebook filters and his comments and obscene songs were going to younger children, not to mention he's 15 and has no business using that language or writing and singing songs about having sex on the bus to begin with! He also had no business going to my son's facebook profile picture of he and his girlfriend and telling him to "get some" from his girlfriend. My stepson removed me and his siblings from his facebook after I let his mother know twice the obscene content he was displaying on his facebook.
Anyway, that's just the background so you can follow along.
On my facebook, I have a filter for kids under 18 so I can filter them out of anything that I post that I might think inappropriate or on issues I think might become inappropriate. I usually include my stepdaughter in that filter (she's 18-1/2) because even though she is technically an adult, she's still a kid to me. She didn't want to be included in the filter but usually, I include her. Yesterday, I filtered all the "kids" out of a comment I made about my schedule yesterday but didn't filter her because she wants to be an adult. My comment basically referred to me calling myself "dumbass". That was the extent of the "swearing". No f bombs, no sex talk, etc.
Apparently, to her it was wrong though I saw her post the last three letters of that word from her facebook last week (and she knew what her brother's sex on the bus song was all about that he wrote and posted about and hid it from her mother which her mother admitted to). Hypocrite much?
So for her first unfiltered comment because she wants to be an adult, she calls me out on my language (seriously, you're going to pick "dumbass" as a reason to get in my face?). When I point out to her that she can be included in the kid filter if she wishes, she commented back on how I got mad at her (15 year old) brother for his language, how I just swore, and she was going to tell my mommy (I told his mother who wasn't supervising his online time about his song he posted on his facebook that he wrote/sang about having sex on the bus, his vile language - f words, b*itch, wh*ore, etc. that younger children were being exposed to so that was where the "tell your mommy" comment came from). I am 39, he is 15. There is a difference not only in ages but in the level of words used. She is calling me out on facebook in front of 200 friends and family, after she wanted to be treated like an adult, because I said "dumbass" (which isn't even considered above PG rating but apparently it was horrendous enough to call me out on facebook about it - something I did not do to my stepson in front of 200 people)? Here was my response to her about my being "mad" at her brother over his language and my swearing.
We were disappointed with the inappropriate language on his fb and the inappropriate comment left on (my son's) fb that kids could see. I filter my facebook stuff so the "under 18" people on my list can't read anything I post that they shouldn't see or anything that I feel might turn into inappropriate content for them. I can add you to the "under 18" kid list if you want me to. You can tell my mommy if ya want to but I'm sure she says "dumbass" too:D
Somebody in support of me posted about how mild that language was after that and I responded back:
Very mild...my potty mouth here probably wouldn't even get censored on regular TV though I chose to censor it for the under 18 crowd here. I think when I have children on my fb, it's the responsible thing to do.
My stepdaughter hasn't responded. Go figure.
I told my husband about it this morning - warning him in advance in case somebody in his family decides to involve themselves in it. He said that his daughter has been very disrespectful to him lately too and he figures since she is 18, that she thinks she can do what she wants and be disrespectful. Yeah, I was nice with my response back to her but she is going back on the "kid list" filter until she's 30.
Hmmm...and I'm supposed to want to put out about $500 for her graduation gift AND another $800 to come see her graduate? Yeah me.
Gee, I better go wash my mouth...I mean my typewriter...with soap now. Potty mouth that I am.
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