My stepkids remembered Father's Day this year. I was glad to see that. It really hurt my husband last year when they didn't bother to send him a text, email, letter, etc. He received in the mail today a mug to where my stepdaughter will be going to college in the Fall.
Read more...My husband is the type of guy that doesn't let things bother him. He's always been able to blow off things that would irritate many people and getting him to talk about something that bothers him is like pulling teeth without anesthesia. It's a painful process.
Two days ago, he mentioned the fact that his kids hadn't contacted him for Father's Day, how bad that was, and how he was surprised their mother didn't make sure they did. My response: She never has before so why would she this year? Seriously. Why would she change 15 years of behavior? All that aside, the fact that he brought it up on his own, without it being pulled out of him piece by piece, tells me how upset he is about Father's Day.
His kids are 17 and 15. The whole history with the ex aside, they are old enough to know how to contact their dad for Father's Day, by mail, phone, text, email, or facebook. There are plenty of means for them to do so. They chose not to. They chose to let hubby know what stepson needed for his birthday this month though! Funny how that works.
I have enough things to worry about with my health without putting too much time into stressing overly much, like I used to, over the behaviors of others. I'll get upset, vent, but I won't lose sleep over it anymore like I used to. I have been sick enough the last few months (too bad that didn't result in more much needed weight loss instead I'm starting to wonder if I really should look at diet pills and the side effects of diet pills). I can't change their behaviors. It's not up to me so I'm venting and moving on with my day. Hubby should talk to his kids and let them know how he feels. I will not try to fix this for him. It's up to him.
The Monday after Father's Day, hubby was hoping perhaps instead of a phone call or text from his kids for Father's Day (which they didn't do), that he would be waiting for a card in the mail instead (they've not done that before but there is always the hope of a first time right?). Well, it's Friday - five days after Father's Day. I think it's pretty safe to say that they have no intention of remembering Father's Day for their dad who they know loves them. GRRRRR!
Read more...The stepkids didn't contact their dad for Father's Day. They both have phones, they both have texting, they both have facebook, they both have computer access, they both are old enough at 17-1/2 and almost 15 to know better, and they both have no friggen excuse.
Last year we waited several days to see if perhaps they'd dropped a note in the mail instead and it took a few days to get here - nope. Wonder if we'll wait a few days for the mail wondering again or if we'll just acknowledge that both kids blew their dad off this year.
He doesn't deserve this. He loves them. He provides for them always. He fought for years for a relationship with them against the ex's alienation attempts. He is a great dad to our own four children. It's not like he's a deadbeat who deserves a shot in the heart like this.
It's been long enough. Apparently the kids couldn't be bothered to do anything for their dad for Father's Day. It doesn't take money so that can't be an excuse. It can be a note or hand-made card. It can be an ecard. Heck, a phone call would have been nice!
I have no time for crap like that. The gifts that are here for them will sit until hubby packs them up to mail them (or I give them to our own kids who love their daddy and appreciate him). I'm not doing jack for them anymore. Been there, done that (for years). I know some will say "but you're the adult." Why, yes I am. I am the adult who did everything I could for these kids for a decade, who got knifed in the back (it was a heart shot too), and who knows not to be a doormat for two kids old enough to know better. My children appreciate what they have and what we give them or they don't get it. The stepkids don't get to live by different rules because their dad and mom aren't married.
It's not the first year they've done this so no surprise there.
It's hard to remember how close we once were compared to now. The ex got her way. I hope she's proud of herself.
Well, it's now been two mail days since Father's Day and still nothing from the stepkids. How long does it take to write a short note wishing him a Happy Father's Day and put it in the mail? It's pretty safe to say they decided not to go out of their way to do a thing for their father. The ex should be so proud on how well she's taught them.
Read more...I was wondering how my stepkids would handle Father's Day for their dad. Not a card or a phone call from either. My stepdaughter sent her dad a text message (so personal of her eh?) and not a word (or text) from my stepson. Nice of her to take ten seconds out of her day for her father. Sad to say that I am not surprised.
Oh how well they've been taught to think of their dad as having little meaning to them. At least it wasn't totally overlooked right (by one of them at least)?
I wonder if my stepson is expecting a big gift for his birthday in a few weeks?
Happy Father's Day to all the dad's today! I hope you're shown all the appreciation that you deserve!
Read more...Father's Day is a few days away. Do we have our men all set to be dazzled by our appreciation? Mine was dazzled over a month ago when he got his present early. I feel like he should have something else to open though (even though the Roland guitar amp was pretty nice that he did get).
I checked into the Kaenon Father's Day Promotion because they're offering the possibility of free sunglasses (and my husband is never without his sunglasses). After what we spent on the amp, free is good! To get free sunglasses, you have to sign up to their email list. When you do that, they give you a promo code to buy the sunglasses. If Brian Gay or Robert Allenby win the U.S. Open on Father's Day, the sunglasses you ordered are free. Either way, you get a great pair of sunglasses.
My husband has to work on Father's Day so it's not going to be much of a day for him. I hope my stepkids do something nice for their dad.
As a stepmom, do you help the stepchildren pick out a gift for Father's Day from them?
When my stepchildren were younger, they usually made him something at school plus I made sure we had a gift from them as well. Now that they're teenagers, they live in a different state, and we don't see them as often (not often enough to involve them in buying a gift with me) I've left it up to them to acknowledge dad for Father's Day. I do, however, pick out a gift for dad from us (our own four children and myself) plus the usual school gifts they make at school for him.
Gift ideas for dad could be something related to a hobby he enjoys, sporting event tickets, Mens Sunglasses (my husband is a sunglass fiend), or homemade gifts. If you go with something related to an outdoor hobby like golf or an outdoor sporting event, he's going to need a pair of sunglasses.
So, how do you handle Father's Day in your home?
Hubby talked to his kids yesterday so I am assuming they wished him a Happy Father's Day. When he called them, they were celebrating their dog's birthday. Yeah for the dog. Never mind that they couldn't be bothered to put a card or a little note in the mail for their dad for Father's Day, as long as they don't forget to celebrate their dog's birthday.
Hm...I'm wondering if I was their parent, if I'd feel like I was below the dog in importance?!? Yes, that's sarcasm.
Happy Birthday, Dog.
I wanted to wish all the fathers a Happy Father's Day! My kids have been planning for awhile what they were going to do for their dad all on their own. Besides what they made for him at school, they've been making by hand their own cards and have planned a party for him today.
I was hoping my stepkids would send a card to their dad but nothing came in the mail for him...just like last year. Nothing. I hope they at least call him sometime today. My kids are all younger than the stepkids and do things on their own to make their dad's day special. You'd think his firstborn son and firstborn daughter would know better and think more about their dad.
My husband has been planning the gift for his eldest son for the past few months. While his son can't take five minutes to drop a note in the mail to say thinking about you and love you. *sigh*
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