It IS Better!

18 years of marriage, two "his" and four "ours" kids, relocating to another state...we've had a busy marriage. We were too cash strapped for a regular wedding (we did the justice of the peace thing) and couldn't afford a honeymoon (fighting his ex for visitation with his son she totally withheld from him completely). I was wedding bands to replace my husband's band and thought about how long it's been, how far we've come, and how so very, very glad I am that his kids are now adults.

Is all the conflict over with the ex or his kids? I doubt it. I'm sure there will be times when chaos reigns briefly. Is it better?  Heck yeah!

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Reminiscing on the Past

I was talking to another stepmom the other day about some of the issues they've had in the past and that are still ongoing (even though the child is now an adult). They've not seen the daughter in over ten years. Mom alienated her from dad and that was that. I guess during the whole alienation process, the BM also assaulted the stepmother. 

Just makes me ask - AGAIN - what is wrong with people?  Why do mothers do this to their kids?

Wow am I glad those days are over!!

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